When I tell people that my wife still breastfeeds they tend to see me as incredibly lucky. After all, I pretty much sleep through the night. I have done since Isabelle was around eight weeks old. In part, it’s mostly down to the fact that Rachel still breastfeeds.
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I might not be able to do the actual feeding, and maybe it didn’t help my relationship with Isabelle in the beginning. Not that I would change a thing, I understand now that Isabelle was mainly concerned with getting fed, and I just had to find other ways to bond. But there are still things I can, and should do, to help Rachel to keep it going. After all, stress plays a huge part in a woman’s ability to actually breastfeed, so giving them all the support you can will help reduce it. Not only that, but breastfeeding itself releases Oxytocin, so the mere act of breastfeeding can help the mother reduce her stress levels. Just don’t tell your partner that at 1am when the baby won’t latch. So, here are four things to help your partner breastfeed:
1. When She Asks, You Do
Once she starts a feed that’s it. She can no longer get up and grab anything that she’s just realised she’s forgotten. Sat down and you’re all comfy? Well guess who has to get up? That’s right, it’s you.
At this point I turn into the house butler, which is something I’m fine with doing. After all, my wife is feeding my baby, it’s not exactly hard to go make a drink, or grab the remote. I’ll be honest, this shouldn’t even be on here as it’s a little bit obvious, but I’ve written it now, and it’s staying. No point in deleting all this and trying to come up with something else.
2. Try Not to Take Things Personally
I’ll be honest, you will get some abuse for absolutely no reason. I’ve had a right roasting on several occasions merely for turning outwards instead of inwards in bed. “It’s alright for you, you can just sleep.” And I take it. Of course I take it. My job in the night is relatively easy. Go to sleep, and if Isabelle gets too…