Knowing what do to for Valentine’s Day with a new partner can be an absolute minefield. If you try to be cool and ignore the day, you might feel bad when they do something romantic, but equally you could come off too strong if you shower them with gifts and they turn up empty handed.
To avoid any misunderstandings and make sure you’re on the same page about the big day, communication is key.
Of course, when and how you bring it up will depend on how long you’ve actually been together. If you’ve only been on a few dates and you’re feeling bold, Anjula Mutanda, relationship psychologist and Relate ambassador, recommends asking them outright how they feel about celebrating Valentine’s Day.
Alternatively, if you’re shy, you can casually mention that 14 February is approaching and try to prompt an opinion from them. If they say they like it, you know it’s safe territory to get them a card. If they rant about commercialisation, you’ve determined that a full fanfare is probably not the best move.